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    Anonymous asked: what does Buddhism say about being a homosexual? and gay marriage?


    Answer:

    buddhajourney:

    Buddhism says nothing about homosexuality and gay marriage. Buddha taught us to love and respect everyone, regardless of race, color, social class, sexual orientation, royal status, etc. The only “kind” of Buddhism where it is mentioned is in Tibetan Buddhism where homosexuality (for ordained monks/nuns) is forbidden, but sex is forbidden anyway, so it almost contradicts itself.

    Homosexuality and gay marriage is acceptable or non-acceptable according to the society Buddhism is in. If you’re in a country where gay marriage is legal and socially acceptable, then it is acceptable to Buddhism in that country. If you’re in a country where gay marriage is illegal and is socially non-acceptable, Buddhism will still accept it, but they might not accept you to ordain or conduct a marriage ceremony. 

    In some Buddhist traditions/countries asking if you are homosexual is one of the questions asked during the ordination process. It may or may not affect their decision to accept you, however it is usually not a big deal since Buddhism clearly teaches us to love every sentient being, especially those who we see as enemies or in this case, “different.”

    I think it was last year that Taiwan had its first Buddhist gay wedding. From what I can remember, I think it was the first anywhere. So it is possible, depending on where you live. In the states however, because Buddhist temples are mostly oriental (Chinese, Vietnamese, Tibetan, or Thai) where gay marriage is usually unacceptable in their home countries, they might not allow it here either. It really all depends on where you are and who you ask.

    Bottom line: Buddhism has no mention at all of homosexuality. The Buddhist Vinaya (the “rules” of monastic living) forbids sex or any sexual acts, so it doesn’t matter what orientation you are.

    Smile and be well!

    — 2 months ago with 19 notes
    godzillacat:

silohouettes:

This is actually disgusting. Forcing a child who doesn’t know any better to do something just because you believe in it. No child should be made to wear Crocs in public please stop this.

I was about to get angry

    godzillacat:

    silohouettes:

    This is actually disgusting. Forcing a child who doesn’t know any better to do something just because you believe in it. No child should be made to wear Crocs in public please stop this.

    I was about to get angry

    (Source: hugeowleyes, via andro-genes)

    — 2 months ago with 280938 notes
    internal-acceptance-movement:

10 WAYS WE BODY SHAME WITHOUT REALIZING IT:
1. Saying Things Like, “She Would Be So Pretty If…” 
Have you ever uttered anything along the lines of, “But she has such a gorgeous face” or “She would be more beautiful if she put on a few pounds”? You are limiting your idea of beauty to a cultural stereotype. Beauty is not conditional. If you can’t say anything nice, maybe it’s time to learn how.
2. Judging Other People’s Clothes 
While it’s fine for you to choose clothes any way you want, nobody else is required to adhere to your style. The person wearing that outfit is, in fact, pulling it off, even if you think she’s too flat chested, big chested, short, tall, fat or thin. And fat people don’t have to confine themselves to dark colors and vertical stripes, no matter who prefers it. And spandex? It’s a right, not a privilege.
3. Making It an ‘Us vs. Them’ Thing 
The phrase “Real Women Have Curves” is highly problematic. Developed as a response to the tremendous body shaming that fat women face, it still amounts to doing the same thing in the opposite direction. The road to high self-esteem is probably not paved with hypocrisy. Equally problematic is the phrase “boyish figure” as if a lack of curves makes us somehow less womanly. The idea that there is only so much beauty, only so much self-esteem to go around is a lie. Real women come in all shapes and sizes, no curves required.
4. Avoiding the Word “Fat”
Dancing around the word fat is an insinuation that it’s so horrible that it can’t even be said. The only thing worse than calling fat people “big boned” or “fluffy” is using euphemisms that suggest body size indicates the state of our health or whether we take care of ourselves. As part of a resolution to end body shaming, try nixing phrases like “she looks healthy,” or “she looks like she is taking care of herself,” and “she looks like she is starving” when what you actually mean is a woman is thin.
5. Making Up Body Parts 
We could all lead very full lives if we never heard the words cankles, muffin top, apple shaped, pear shaped or apple butt ever again. We are not food.
6. Congratulating People for Losing Weight 
You don’t know a person’s circumstances. Maybe she lost weight because of an illness. You also don’t know if she’ll gain the weight back (about 95 percent of people do), in which case earlier praise might feel like criticism. If someone points out that a person has lost weight, consider adding something like, “You’ve always been beautiful. I’m happy if you are happy.” But if a person doesn’t mention her weight loss, then you shouldn’t mention it either. Think of something else you can compliment.
7. Using Pretend Compliments 
“You’re really brave to wear that.” By the way, wearing a sleeveless top or bikini does not take bravery. “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful.” These things are not mutually exclusive — a person can be fat and beautiful. “You can afford to eat that, you’re thin.” You don’t know if someone has an eating disorder or something else; there is no need to comment on someone’s body or food intake. “You’re not that fat” or “You’re not fat, you workout,” need to be struck from your vocabulary. Suggesting that looking fat is a bad thing is also insulting.
8. Thinking of Women as Baby-Making Machines 
One of my readers mentioned that her gynecologist called her “good breeding stock.” Also awful: “baby making hips.” Worst of all is when people ask fat people when they are due. As has famously been said, unless you can see the baby crowning, do not assume that someone is pregnant.
9. Sticking Your Nose in Other People’s Exercise Routines 
A subtle form of body shaming occurs when people make assumptions or suggestions about someone’s exercise habits based on their size. Don’t ask a fat person, “Have you tried walking?” Don’t tell a thin person, “You must spend all day in the gym.” I have had people at the gym congratulate me for starting a workout program when, in fact, I started working out at age 12 and never stopped. I had a thin friend who started a weight-lifting program and someone said to her, “Be careful, you don’t want to bulk up.” How about not completely over-stepping your boundaries and being rude and inappropriate?
10. Playing Dietitian 
If you have no idea how much a person eats or exercises, you shouldn’t tell her to eat less and move more or suggest she put more meat on her bones. (Even if you do know what she eats, don’t do it). How do you know she’s looking for nutritional advice from you or the newest weight-loss tip you saw on Dr. Oz?
Written by: Ragen Chastain

    internal-acceptance-movement:

    10 WAYS WE BODY SHAME WITHOUT REALIZING IT:

    1. Saying Things Like, “She Would Be So Pretty If…” 

    Have you ever uttered anything along the lines of, “But she has such a gorgeous face” or “She would be more beautiful if she put on a few pounds”? You are limiting your idea of beauty to a cultural stereotype. Beauty is not conditional. If you can’t say anything nice, maybe it’s time to learn how.

    2. Judging Other People’s Clothes 

    While it’s fine for you to choose clothes any way you want, nobody else is required to adhere to your style. The person wearing that outfit is, in fact, pulling it off, even if you think she’s too flat chested, big chested, short, tall, fat or thin. And fat people don’t have to confine themselves to dark colors and vertical stripes, no matter who prefers it. And spandex? It’s a right, not a privilege.

    3. Making It an ‘Us vs. Them’ Thing 

    The phrase “Real Women Have Curves” is highly problematic. Developed as a response to the tremendous body shaming that fat women face, it still amounts to doing the same thing in the opposite direction. The road to high self-esteem is probably not paved with hypocrisy. Equally problematic is the phrase “boyish figure” as if a lack of curves makes us somehow less womanly. The idea that there is only so much beauty, only so much self-esteem to go around is a lie. Real women come in all shapes and sizes, no curves required.

    4. Avoiding the Word “Fat”

    Dancing around the word fat is an insinuation that it’s so horrible that it can’t even be said. The only thing worse than calling fat people “big boned” or “fluffy” is using euphemisms that suggest body size indicates the state of our health or whether we take care of ourselves. As part of a resolution to end body shaming, try nixing phrases like “she looks healthy,” or “she looks like she is taking care of herself,” and “she looks like she is starving” when what you actually mean is a woman is thin.

    5. Making Up Body Parts 

    We could all lead very full lives if we never heard the words cankles, muffin top, apple shaped, pear shaped or apple butt ever again. We are not food.

    6. Congratulating People for Losing Weight 

    You don’t know a person’s circumstances. Maybe she lost weight because of an illness. You also don’t know if she’ll gain the weight back (about 95 percent of people do), in which case earlier praise might feel like criticism. If someone points out that a person has lost weight, consider adding something like, “You’ve always been beautiful. I’m happy if you are happy.” But if a person doesn’t mention her weight loss, then you shouldn’t mention it either. Think of something else you can compliment.

    7. Using Pretend Compliments 

    “You’re really brave to wear that.” By the way, wearing a sleeveless top or bikini does not take bravery. “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful.” These things are not mutually exclusive — a person can be fat and beautiful. “You can afford to eat that, you’re thin.” You don’t know if someone has an eating disorder or something else; there is no need to comment on someone’s body or food intake. “You’re not that fat” or “You’re not fat, you workout,” need to be struck from your vocabulary. Suggesting that looking fat is a bad thing is also insulting.

    8. Thinking of Women as Baby-Making Machines 

    One of my readers mentioned that her gynecologist called her “good breeding stock.” Also awful: “baby making hips.” Worst of all is when people ask fat people when they are due. As has famously been said, unless you can see the baby crowning, do not assume that someone is pregnant.

    9. Sticking Your Nose in Other People’s Exercise Routines 

    A subtle form of body shaming occurs when people make assumptions or suggestions about someone’s exercise habits based on their size. Don’t ask a fat person, “Have you tried walking?” Don’t tell a thin person, “You must spend all day in the gym.” I have had people at the gym congratulate me for starting a workout program when, in fact, I started working out at age 12 and never stopped. I had a thin friend who started a weight-lifting program and someone said to her, “Be careful, you don’t want to bulk up.” How about not completely over-stepping your boundaries and being rude and inappropriate?

    10. Playing Dietitian 

    If you have no idea how much a person eats or exercises, you shouldn’t tell her to eat less and move more or suggest she put more meat on her bones. (Even if you do know what she eats, don’t do it). How do you know she’s looking for nutritional advice from you or the newest weight-loss tip you saw on Dr. Oz?

    Written by: Ragen Chastain

    — 5 months ago with 69476 notes
    amandapalmer:

THIS IS NOT A GAME OF WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU

    amandapalmer:

    THIS IS NOT A GAME OF WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU

    — 9 months ago with 379 notes
    A Day in the Life of a Sexologist: A sexologist's two cents on the 2013 MTV VMAs →

    sexologist:

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    Dear Society,

    If you think a woman in a tan vinyl bra and underwear, grabbing her crotch and grinding up on a dance partner is raunchy, trashy, and offensive but you don’t think her dance partner is raunchy, trashy, or offensive as he sings a song about “blurred” lines of consent and…

    — 1 year ago with 31638 notes
    Contentment

    I’m glad to be someone that pursues the richness and flavors of life. I want to be a wise old woman whose life story others learn from and are inspired by. I never want to change this about myself out of fear.
    I want to be someone who rides the waves, but part of this is knowing what waves are too dangerous. How much pain am I willing to take in order to experience something new or rich?
    I’m a contradiction of desires, talents, priorities and values. Any combination of these is still me and is not wrong or bad. Once I accept my contradictions instead of being ashamed or critical of them, I believe good things will happen. Maybe I’ll be more likely to make wiser choices, maybe I’ll find more contentment, and hopefully I’ll be a better surfer.
    I’m making myself a dress with many pockets. A pocket for each desire. It’s ok if they’re empty. I don’t want to shop for something to put in them. I want to build the pocket, and then let the universe give me a gift when I’m ready for it. Some pockets will always be empty.
    Instead of focusing on what’s empty, I’m going to focus on what’s full. I have lots of amazing full pockets.

    — 1 year ago
    #contentment  #desire